This is the real life story of a 25 year old fighting the fight of her life with breast cancer and then at 29 finding a recurrence and having to make life changing decisions. This is my story.
“You've done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination.” Ralph Marston
“You've done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination.” Ralph Marston

I've been known as a strong willed, independent, and stubborn girl and woman. Maybe it all was planned to be that way so that I could succeed in this fight. I learn more about myself each day and what I can handle and what's really important in this world.
Wednesday, May 9, 2012
Pesky Little Boob Pest
I've always been intrigued by the things we can't see with the naked eye. It is amazing how beautiful the tiniest most evil things in the world are under a microscope. How something so damn small can be so damn mean? There are many types of breast cancer out there but above is a picture of 1 form of breast cancer. I was looking for an awesome looking picture to add on here to spruce the blog up and working with the layout and all that and came across this picture and thought I'd share it. I've learned more about medical stuff and medical insurance/billing than I ever really wanted to know.
Workin' Girl
Sitting at home for a few days with the instructions of no lifting, no stretching, basically sit and do nothing. That is hard to do when the rest of your body and mind feels and works just fine. I decided to go back to work on Tuesday and for the most part went well. I was a little slower than normal but was able to get caught up on a lot of things. I woke up this morning and was sore, maybe over did it a bit on Tuesday. I put in almost a full day today before I needed to take a break and relax at home.
I am listening to the doctors and not lifting with my right arm - well as long as I catch myself in time - and not stretching at all. To assist with this, I have created quite a cocoon on the bed with pillows to help me keep from rolling around and splitting the incision open. If I'm not careful, I might get used to this and officially claim the entire thing as mine! At night is the worst time since I am not conscious enough to know if I'm stretching or rolling too much pulling the incision around. Because of all this focus and less comfort, it is healing quite nicely. Once I get a few weeks out, I'll put silicone strips on the incision which will help to keep the incision flat so the it doesn't scar badly and also lighten the scar up. I did this with the last and it helped the healing and aesthetics of the scars a lot. Worth the extra effort and money - works better than Mederma.
Right now, we are waiting for the results of the tumor to come back. I can only hope that it was a false positive with the FNA (fine needle aspiration biopsy). A friend of mine is going through Proton radiation therapy and I am looking at it online. It is fairly new to the breast cancer treatment arena from what I can see and still considered slightly experimental since they haven't been able to observe the long term effects. The main positive points are:
I am listening to the doctors and not lifting with my right arm - well as long as I catch myself in time - and not stretching at all. To assist with this, I have created quite a cocoon on the bed with pillows to help me keep from rolling around and splitting the incision open. If I'm not careful, I might get used to this and officially claim the entire thing as mine! At night is the worst time since I am not conscious enough to know if I'm stretching or rolling too much pulling the incision around. Because of all this focus and less comfort, it is healing quite nicely. Once I get a few weeks out, I'll put silicone strips on the incision which will help to keep the incision flat so the it doesn't scar badly and also lighten the scar up. I did this with the last and it helped the healing and aesthetics of the scars a lot. Worth the extra effort and money - works better than Mederma.
Right now, we are waiting for the results of the tumor to come back. I can only hope that it was a false positive with the FNA (fine needle aspiration biopsy). A friend of mine is going through Proton radiation therapy and I am looking at it online. It is fairly new to the breast cancer treatment arena from what I can see and still considered slightly experimental since they haven't been able to observe the long term effects. The main positive points are:
- Treatment time goes from 7 weeks (1x day for 5 days for 7 weeks) to 2 weeks (1x day for 5 days for 2 weeks).
- Focused to a specific point - less radiation to the surrounding tissues. With photon radiation, there is a risk to the lungs, heart, and other breast but with proton radiation there is a less risk of radiation to those organs. This would also protect my ribs - I am ultimately sacrificing the implant on my right side to protect my organs and ribs. The radiation will be right on my rib cage, for this reason it will weaken my rib cage dramatically on my right side. I could be reaching to pick up the remote and crack a rib in the future. Actually, very possible per the radiation oncologist.
- Skin issues, implant issues reduced. Possibility I won't have to have that major surgery in 3-5 years to reconstruct my entire chest again. This would involve taking skin and tissue from my stomach or back, pulling my shoulder muscle around to the front of my chest - very painful and extensive.
- Be away from home during this entire time. Apparently there are only 8 places in the nation that have a proton radiation device.
- Costs 5x more than standard photon radiation treatment. Will insurance cover it?
- Still consider "experimental" for my type of cancer, are the short term benefits worth not knowing the long term?
- They aren't sure of the effects of the scattering neutrons are... will the neutrons go off and create a cancer somewhere else in the body versus keeping any additional cancers in my chest/breast area?
Friday, May 4, 2012
Blooming Tulips and Flowers
These are the pictures of the flowers my friends Kevin and Jennifer sent me. They are so pretty blooming today.
Fighting Boredom.... hmmm what to do?!?!?!
There is absolutely nothing on for day time television. I am getting so bored sitting around the house. Not allowed to pick anything up, no stretching, and the such so that I don't pull the incision open. After sleeping the last 2 nights in the recliner so I wouldn't roll on my incision, I am going to try to actually sleep in the bed tonight. Woke up this morning a little sore but not as bad as yesterday. It is healing up quite nicely. I am having to really focus on not overdoing it since I am healing so well. I am only 2.5 days out of surgery and have 14 days to not stretch or pick stuff up. It is gonna be a long 2 weeks!! Hopefully the people at work keep me from over doing also.
Thursday, May 3, 2012
New Member of the Cook Scar Community
This is the new scar added to my side. It is being welcomed into the Cook Scar community. It is healing well and my doctor did a fantastic job as before making sure it is smooth connection. No stitches, he used DermaFlex to keep it together. The small dot at the bottom of the pic is where he went in from the side to get the biopsy on 4.16. The incision itself is about 2 inches long. He cut an oval shape around the tumor and went down removing the segment/wedge of tissue to ensure he got the tumor and the tissue surrounding it. Then he scraped the implant to pull it off the implant wall.
I received some beautiful flowers today from some friends which was a pleasant surprise to wake up to mid day. Pictures to come as soon as they bloom a little more. Thank you!
Ding! Round 1: Deidre 2 Cancer 0
Please pardon any typos since I am typing this on my ittsy bittsy iPod.
Had my surgery yesterday morning. We were able to sleep in and get ready in a relax manner rather than like zombies. We arrived at the hospital right at the appointment when I realized I left the order paperwork at home. Now I focused on those darn papers all week and forgot them the day of. Luckily they had the orders and didn't need the paperwork. They immediately took me back. I turned and gave my mom a big hug and told her I'd see her soon. I gave her hard time in a joking way to make her laugh earlier during admissions. I hadn't eaten anything since midnight and it was 11am. She had bought me some Reese's to eat when I was out of surgery. She whips those puppies out waves them in my face as she gives them to Chris "thanks mom, wave the precious in front of the starving girl" she laughed hysterically. Then on the elevator she said "I thought about stopping by your house to be sure you had breakfast" and jokingly glared over at her and said "really?" she laughed again. I like to see my mom laugh especially when it deals with difficult things. I know she is sad having to watch me go through all this again so I work to keep her laughing.
After giving her the big hug went back to the outpatient room and Chris and I joked and laughed. After the nurse came in my friend Mary Black came in and said hello. She took time to come and see me while she was working at the hospital. It was so good to see her. She had a conversation with my surgeon beforehand Nd told him to be steady handed today and that he was saving the beat for last - that would be me if you were wondering! :) Listened to some Rolling Stones while they prepped me in the holding tank. It is funny because nurses walk by and remember me from all my surgeries in 2008 and 2009. When I was on recovery and as soon as I opened my eyes still drugged up the first thing I did was reach up slowly and felt 1 boob and the 2 boob.... Woohoo! I said something about it to the nurse and she chuckled. I continued doing that to make sure I wasn't dreaming it the time before. They rolled me back to the outpatient room and I told my husband "I still have 2 boobs!" he just laughed. That was my biggest fear and he knew that I was ok as long I had 2 boobs. The things that make you happy and laugh. I was thinking about how my bathing suits would look if I didn't have boob. Gotta look good in that thang! And I disgress. The rest of the evening I took it easy. Laid on the sofa with my pillow and blanket. Our friend Amanda made a delicious dinner and brought it over. It was quite tastey! I slept in the recliner to be sure that I didn't roll on my incision. Woke up this morning and my incision was hurting so bad. Despite the pain I am glad it is out. It had started to hurt day to day which worried me that it was growing.
Chris was able to see the ultrasound pictures of my tumor and the before and after pics. He was shocked at how close it was to my implant. I love my surgeon he is amazing. He not only takes care of me physically but he treats us (Chris and myself) as humans and adults. He doesn't talk down to me or treat me like a child. We joke and laugh together and he takes the time that is needed to make sure I fully understand everything. I trust him completely. God has placed amazing medical resources at my finger tips and amazing loving friends and family. love you guys!
About forgot... They are running several tests and those results will return within the next 1-2 weeks. So we will get the details throughout that time. The results determine the treatment plan to come. This is the beginning but let's rock cancer's world again and show him the strength of the human will to survive again.
Had my surgery yesterday morning. We were able to sleep in and get ready in a relax manner rather than like zombies. We arrived at the hospital right at the appointment when I realized I left the order paperwork at home. Now I focused on those darn papers all week and forgot them the day of. Luckily they had the orders and didn't need the paperwork. They immediately took me back. I turned and gave my mom a big hug and told her I'd see her soon. I gave her hard time in a joking way to make her laugh earlier during admissions. I hadn't eaten anything since midnight and it was 11am. She had bought me some Reese's to eat when I was out of surgery. She whips those puppies out waves them in my face as she gives them to Chris "thanks mom, wave the precious in front of the starving girl" she laughed hysterically. Then on the elevator she said "I thought about stopping by your house to be sure you had breakfast" and jokingly glared over at her and said "really?" she laughed again. I like to see my mom laugh especially when it deals with difficult things. I know she is sad having to watch me go through all this again so I work to keep her laughing.
After giving her the big hug went back to the outpatient room and Chris and I joked and laughed. After the nurse came in my friend Mary Black came in and said hello. She took time to come and see me while she was working at the hospital. It was so good to see her. She had a conversation with my surgeon beforehand Nd told him to be steady handed today and that he was saving the beat for last - that would be me if you were wondering! :) Listened to some Rolling Stones while they prepped me in the holding tank. It is funny because nurses walk by and remember me from all my surgeries in 2008 and 2009. When I was on recovery and as soon as I opened my eyes still drugged up the first thing I did was reach up slowly and felt 1 boob and the 2 boob.... Woohoo! I said something about it to the nurse and she chuckled. I continued doing that to make sure I wasn't dreaming it the time before. They rolled me back to the outpatient room and I told my husband "I still have 2 boobs!" he just laughed. That was my biggest fear and he knew that I was ok as long I had 2 boobs. The things that make you happy and laugh. I was thinking about how my bathing suits would look if I didn't have boob. Gotta look good in that thang! And I disgress. The rest of the evening I took it easy. Laid on the sofa with my pillow and blanket. Our friend Amanda made a delicious dinner and brought it over. It was quite tastey! I slept in the recliner to be sure that I didn't roll on my incision. Woke up this morning and my incision was hurting so bad. Despite the pain I am glad it is out. It had started to hurt day to day which worried me that it was growing.
Chris was able to see the ultrasound pictures of my tumor and the before and after pics. He was shocked at how close it was to my implant. I love my surgeon he is amazing. He not only takes care of me physically but he treats us (Chris and myself) as humans and adults. He doesn't talk down to me or treat me like a child. We joke and laugh together and he takes the time that is needed to make sure I fully understand everything. I trust him completely. God has placed amazing medical resources at my finger tips and amazing loving friends and family. love you guys!
About forgot... They are running several tests and those results will return within the next 1-2 weeks. So we will get the details throughout that time. The results determine the treatment plan to come. This is the beginning but let's rock cancer's world again and show him the strength of the human will to survive again.
Tuesday, May 1, 2012
Let's Rumble! Round 1
It's funny, I received a text message yesterday saying "good luck tomorrow, let us know how it goes." Then today, I received so many of the "good luck today" messages I began to wonder if I lost a day somewhere and I was where I needed to be. Thank you all for the positive thoughts. I was awake last night til about 1am starting thinking about everything and this is the beginning of the craziness to come. Kinda scares me a little but I am ready for the fight. I try to not ask myself "why me" because as my very special grandfather told me when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer and eventually consumed him "God doesn't give you what you can't handle, if I didn't have this someone else would, and I can't have that." As a friend of mine posted on my facebook page "I'm a bigger bitch than cancer." I know that some may think that is a horrible thing to say but that friend is like a brother and we have our moments of pure hatred and love for each other. He knows me probably better than most and he is right. You want a fight.... I'm ready!! :)
Today, I got to see a very special friend who makes me laugh and is very stylish, if I may say so myself. I misss seeing my other friends in TN but soon we shall see each other. Today has been a matter of ensuring everything is ready to rock and roll for tomorrow. Surgery is scheduled and we are in a "go" pattern. Be at the hospital at 10:45am. Now the interesting part will be that I can't eat after midnight... now what's my most favoritest thing in the whole wide world.... eating! What do I do first thing in the morning??? Eat! What happens when Deidre doesn't eat???? Ohhhhhh cranky alter ego Deidre comes out. Oh and let's not forget the wonderful sinus headaches I've been having recently and unable to take anything for them per the discussion with the nurse. So sinus headaches with hunger/low sugar headaches - I'ma gonna be a peach tomorrow! LOL Staying up to midnight, the last minute of the hour and chowing down. As I told my cousin, going to do the 74oz steak challenge tonight with all the dressings!
Today, I got to see a very special friend who makes me laugh and is very stylish, if I may say so myself. I misss seeing my other friends in TN but soon we shall see each other. Today has been a matter of ensuring everything is ready to rock and roll for tomorrow. Surgery is scheduled and we are in a "go" pattern. Be at the hospital at 10:45am. Now the interesting part will be that I can't eat after midnight... now what's my most favoritest thing in the whole wide world.... eating! What do I do first thing in the morning??? Eat! What happens when Deidre doesn't eat???? Ohhhhhh cranky alter ego Deidre comes out. Oh and let's not forget the wonderful sinus headaches I've been having recently and unable to take anything for them per the discussion with the nurse. So sinus headaches with hunger/low sugar headaches - I'ma gonna be a peach tomorrow! LOL Staying up to midnight, the last minute of the hour and chowing down. As I told my cousin, going to do the 74oz steak challenge tonight with all the dressings!
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